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Single Parenting Stress 

Single parenting stress not exclusively a female problem but in 9 out of 10 cases, it is the woman who is left to bring up children on their own.

Being a single parent has become more and more common and is no longer something society frowns upon. However it still carries with it a certain pressure to be the perfect parent.

When anything goes wrong you are blamed because you are a single mother and children can’t be brought up by only one parent right? Of course this is not true, but even so the pressure is still there day after day.

The Causes of Single Parenting Stress

Let’s take a look at some of the possible causes of stress for a single parent;

  • Having to be both mum and dad. Providing the children with both the male and female life experience and perspective, to provide a balanced home life for the children.
  • Being the only provider for the family
  • Holding down a job as well as taking care of the home
  • Providing a good home life for the children with nutritional food and plenty of play times with them.

All these things are stressful not only for the parent but also for the children who are very good at picking up on negative feelings and emotions.

Beat Single Parenting Stress

So how do you be the super mum who never gets stressed and does everything right? The answer is…..

It’s not possible.

But there are things you can do to reduce your stress and its effects on your own health and the happiness of your children.

The best and first thing to do is:

Always talk to your children and explain any difficulties you are having. The more they understand the more likely is that they will respond in a positive way and not cause you any additional stress. It will also help to prevent the children from becoming stressed.

The other thing you must do is to look after yourself. This alone will not only prevent stress but will help to reduce any affects of stress in your life. After all you need to be fit and healthy to look after your family. So:

  • Make time for yourself once in a while; get friends or family to look after the children you relax.
  • Get enough sleep, this is so important and often over looked. Even if it means taking little cat naps throughout the day.
  • Eat healthily an obvious one I know but it can be easy to slip into bad habits when your schedule is busy. However planning meals in advance will help you eat a better diet. It has the added benefit of teaching your children how to eat well.
  • Practice some form of stress relief every day. Meditation can be done in small chunks and breathing exercises can be done almost anywhere any time. The more you practice the better the relaxation benefits.
  • Make time for some fun, have a laugh with a friend, watch a funny film, go dancing once in a while.

Finally get your children involved:

  • Spend time with your children even if it is only during meal times. Spend some time talking to each other even if it is only for five minutes every day. This will create a much stronger family unit.
  • Involve your children in your exercise routine, kids can find this fun too. Many children love to do Yoga; it has become very popular over the last few years.
  • Have fun together as often as you can and when the house needs cleaning and the kids want to play, why not make it a game. Say who can put all their toys away the fastest or who can put their clothes away the tidiest etc etc. you’ll be surprised what kids will do if you make it fun and you might even enjoy it too.

Single parenting stress may seem unavoidable but it can certainly be managed.

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