Childrens anxiety no matter what their age can not only be distressing for them but also for the concerned and worried parent.
Not knowing how to sooth your child when they are experiencing stress and anxiety can be stressful to you. So learning a few stress relief tips for children is an essential parenting skill.
Even babies and very small infants can experience stress, perhaps they become anxious when left alone or when they see something new for the first time.
However a relaxed child is less likely to react to stressors in such a negative way. So the main stress relief tip for soothing childrens anxiety when they are very small is to instil in them a constant sense of well being and relaxation.
Try these methods for childrens anxiety:
As they grow life becomes a giant playground, full of new and exciting stimuli. However the child’s view of the world is very different to our own and it is important that we remember that.
We may find it unacceptable to pour milk on the carpet but the child will have no understanding of this. So it is important that we do not become the stressors in our childrens lives.
When something goes wrong and they have done something they shouldn’t, instead of shouting, which will only be viewed as a frightening experience, you should be firm but calm. Say in a controlled way why something is wrong, they may not understand the words but they will understand the tone. Toddlers need to learn to trust their parents not be frightened of them.
Some children are just more naturally weary of things than others and this should be something that a parent takes into consideration. This does need protecting your child from everything or allowing them not to participate if they don’t want to. This will only instil fear and stress in new situations and make the problem worse in years to come.
Instead take things slower than normal. Introduce them to new things they may show signs of fear of in a controlled, small steps way. If at first you don’t succeed, keep trying on another occasion. Gentle persuasion is much better than throwing them in at the deep end or shying away from the situation all together.
Reassurance is often under rated but from my own experience I know that when it is not there it can leave a child feeling alone and less confident. A lot of childrens anxiety is due to low self esteem and confidence and it is up to us the parents to make sure that these two negative qualities are not allowed to develop.
I was contacted by a young teenager recently who was telling me that they felt so stressed and tired all the time because all they were expected to do was go to school, then do swimming for three hours every evening, followed by homework and then bed. Well we would all feel rather stressed by that regime but for a child who may feel not in control of their own lives, this must be much worse.
Sometimes parents think they are doing the right thing by encouraging their children to join various clubs and be out doing something every night of the week. Dancing lessons, swimming, football practice, scouts etc are all very well but children also need time to find their own fun and relaxation (I don’t mean TV by the way).
By letting children to have some time when they can make their own decision about what they want to do. This is very empowering and instils a sense of organising their own lives which will see them in good stead as they get older.
When you notice your child becoming anxious there are a few things you can teach your children to do, to help them calm down.
Breathing in this way calms the body by slowing the heart rate relaxes muscles and allows normal blood flow to resume. A relaxed body cannot be stressed at the same time.Stress Relief WS › Kids › Anxiety Tips